Breaking Free of Bad Habits
Have you ever tried to break yourself of a bad habit? More powerful than a bad habit, have you ever tried to free yourself from an addiction? I have. Have you tried to stop many times? I did, too. I would swear to myself that I would quit and the next thing you know, I’d have an emotional moment or a drink and I’d break my promise.
That would start the vicious cycle of self-sabotage/self-loathing all over again. I would then find myself worse off (emotionally and spiritually) than before I even made the attempt to quit.
Bad habits and addictions zap our ability to move forward in life. Since this is the time of year for resolutions, it’s the perfect time to give it up!
So after more than 20 years of smoking, I finally quit. Sounds easy to say now, but the reality is far from it. Smoking took up way too much of my life. I couldn’t do certain tasks without a cigarette. I wouldn’t go anywhere without them. I made other activities wait until I went somewhere to purchase them.
I didn’t like the way it smelled and the smell was everywhere, on my breath, my clothing, my car, my house; you get the idea. The constancy of the odor became a metaphor for just how deeply smoking had become ingrained in my life, indeed, it had permeated my life. And the really crazy part about all of this? More often than not, I didn’t even enjoy smoking.
So like lots of other people, I tried to quit. Many times. And I always ended up smoking again. Finally, during yet another attempt to quit, I took a smoker’s profile test to see if I could find out what it was that attracted me to smoking in the first place. I learned from it that I was a social smoker, meaning that I mostly smoked when I was with other people.
This information was like striking gold because I saw for the first time how I didn’t have the courage to decline a smoke offered by a friend for fear that they wouldn’t like me anymore. Our human connection was partly bonded through our smoking experience; would there still be a connection if I took that bond away?
One day as I was having a smoker’s coughing spell, I suddenly heard the words of one of my mentors: “If you want to be a leader you have to give up the need to be right.” It was one of those moments when I knew I had heard a personal truth because of how it resonated in my soul.
I repeated the words to myself once again and decided at that moment that I had to give up my people pleasing ways because I saw clearly just how destructive it was. Not only was I risking my health by smoking, but I was also letting my perception of what others might or might not think about me be the barometer by which I made all my life decisions.
To this day, that moment remains an indelible mark on my brain. That was the day I decided to put myself in charge of my life.
That doesn’t mean it was all down hill from there. I still had the withdrawal symptoms to deal with. For me, the power of prayer took them all away. Solid scientific research has been done on prayer and the startling results showing measurable and reproducible benefits that can’t be explained by any traditional scientific understanding. 12-step programs also claim the belief in a power greater than self as the bedrock of their programs.
Not only is there documented evidence about the benefits of prayer, but my own experience with it makes me highly recommend it for help with letting go of self-destructive habits.
In addition to the withdrawal, I also had to substitute healthier activities for my old habits and learn how to deal with people being unhappy about my decision(s). Leaders make decisions. When you are a decision maker you must realize that many people will call that decision wrong.
Look at the president of the United States. No matter who’s in office, half of the people will disagree with whatever decision is made. Look around. Few people are willing to step up to a leadership position but they are the ones who endure the brunt of public criticism.
The day I decided to take charge of my life I stopped trying to fit in with the status quo. I became the leader of my own life. I decided that it was okay to make my own decisions, okay to be wrong, okay if others didn’t like my decisions, and okay if I lost a few smoking buddies as a result. What I gained was so much bigger than all of that. Plus, I haven’t had a cigarette since!
What do you need to be right about? What bad habit do you need to give up? Are you willing to give up relationships that are held together by bad habits? I AM!
Action ~ realize that you are a person of CHOICE, one who can choose to do what is right for yourself. Remember that even those who claim to love us have their own reasons for wanting us to stay in our comfort zone.
After you’ve made the decision to be the leader in your own life, pray. Pray for freedom from your destructive habit and strength to withstand the pressure of the void. You’ll be glad you did.
Diann S. Cannon, ACC is a certified Business and Personal Coach for independent professionals and small business owners. She is also a successful corporate speaker and facilitator. Contact Diann at diann@signalscoach.com or visit her website at http://www.signalscoach.com.
The Secret to Real Confidence
Sometimes the best secrets are hidden in plain sight. When it comes to developing confidence, there is one “secret shortcut” that took me years to understand, but it’s so painfully obvious that I want to kick myself sometimes for not being aware of it all along. The “secret” I want to tell to you about is acceptance.
Understanding the importance of acceptance requires a little creative thinking. It is important to remember that confidence is never an “all or nothing” situation. We all have confidence to some degree, but it is a fact that some people have much more that than others. It is also a fact, that no matter how low your self-esteem may be right now, you do have some confidence. So it’s a sliding scale, and just for the sake of argument, let’s say that the confidence scale goes from one to ten, with one being least confident and ten being supremely confident.
To further make this point, let’s say that right now your confidence level is a three on this scale, and your friend’s confidence is a six on the same scale. Now, it’s obvious that your friend is twice as confident as you, but at the same time his confidence level is still only a six out of ten, so it certainly could be a lot higher and your friend is very aware of this.
Now here is where the power of acceptance comes into the picture. Imagine that your friend, whose confidence level is a six, feels very bad about himself because his confidence isn’t higher. But let’s say that, unlike your friend, you understand that your confidence level is low, but you feel OK about that, and you’re not judging yourself because of it. In effect, you are saying “my confidence level “is what it is” and I feel perfectly comfortable with that.”
Now, who is going to be perceived as being more confident, you or your friend? YOU ARE! Every single time. Because if you accept your confidence level (no matter what it is) and are perfectly comfortable with it, you are going to come across as much more confident than your friend who does not accept his confidence level. You see how this works?
Another way of saying this would be, no matter what your confidence level is, accepting it and being comfortable with it will instantly make you more confident! Are you having an “aha” moment yet? I know I did when i first began to really “get” this idea. And the irony is, this is such a simple idea. Nevertheless, I overlooked this critical point for many years. Maybe you have too…
But once you understand the importance of acceptance, you can use this knowledge to immediately boost your confidence. All you need to do is begin where you are right now and make it a point to accept your current situation and your current level of confidence. Do NOT feel frustrated with yourself or your situation. Begin with a good feeling about where you are right now at this very minute. After a day or two of thinking this way, you will definitely notice a difference. When you begin any confidence building program from the point of view of acceptance, you are certain to see greater results in less time.
But be warned, if you begin trying to make changes in your life from a position of frustration, or self disapproval, you will find it much more difficult to create the results you want. Find a way to make peace with yourself and your situation where you are right now. Remember, the key to the whole thing is to start by accepting yourself just as you are right now. You absolutely can do this, and it WILL make a difference. Every single time.
Jon Mercer is a personal development coach and the founder of UltraConfidence.com. To learn how to build real confidence from the “inside-out”, visit http://www.ultraconfidence/
Focus and Concentration Tips: How to Make Your Mind Stay on Track
Gaining focus and maintaining concentration on school, work, or whatever your goal is quite a challenge for most people. Both things however are important if you wish to attain your objectives efficiently and effectively.
Know What You Want.
It is impossible for you to gain focus and concentration if you do not know what you want. Be as specific as possible when describing your goals to yourself. If you know exactly what you want, the better you will be able to focus and concentrate on getting what you want.
Multi-Tasking Are for Computers
And you are not a computer, are you? Since you are not, then do not expect your mind to be able to work like one. Even Einstein had to concentrate on the nuclear bomb exclusively before moving on to something elseless dangerous.
If you wish to be able to accomplish your goal, you need to take things one step at a time.
Divide, Organize, and Conquer.
In relation to doing things one at a time, the best way to gain focus and concentration is by dividing a huge task into smaller sections. Then, you can focus and concentrate on accomplishing one section after another. If you have a project to work on, divide it into sections such as planning, gathering for resources, implementing the changes, and so forth.
If you do it that way, the next thing you know you have already completed the task way before the time allotted for you.
Expect Resistance.
Life is never smooth sailing for anyone in this world, not even for Bill Gates. As such, be prepared beforehand to encounter resistance of sorts to completing your goals. Distraction comes in all shapes and sizes, so it could be anything that would threaten your focus on concentration.
Knowing however that there will be an obstacle to overcome will already help you conquer whatever challenge you are facing and resume your focus and concentration.
Gaining Focus and Concentration Takes Time.
Do not fool yourself into thinking that you will gain instant success the first time you try to follow these tips. Sure, it is possible for that to happen but it is even more possible that it will not. If you have trouble gaining focus and concentration, do not feel worried and give up immediately because what you are going through is normal.
As time passes however, you will see that gaining focus and concentration gets easier every time.
Focus and Concentration are not for Free.
You will always have to give up something to make room for something better. In this case, the price of focus and concentration may just be about anything but its most probably the one thing that causes you the most distraction.
For some, it could be using the telephone during work hours while for some it is their inner struggle for self-confidence.
Do Today What You Can Do Tomorrow.
In simple terms: avoid procrastinating. The earlier you start working on your goals, the better you will be able to gain focus and concentration. If you leave things too late, you will end up being stressed, pressured, and bothered by the ticking deadline. If you work early on the other hand, you will be more able to focus and concentrate because there is nothing else to worry about except to get the job done.
Once you do develop the right habits to be able to gain focus and concentration easily then do not take your ability for granted. Practice, practice, and practice some more!
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You Are The Architect
To have prosperity in life you must understand the Law of Attraction. Everything in your life was invited, created and attracted by you through your thoughts, words and emotions. You actually Designed Your Life. Some people are not aware of it and are actually kind of scared when they realize that they are responsible for their lives. All of the good and what you might call bad things were attracted to you by you.
We all have conscious choices, but most of us are not aware that we make them. We think that life just happened. We forget that we are creators by nature. That is how our Supreme Being created us. We have to take responsibility for our lives and attract what we desire. We are responsible for our thoughts, our feelings, and for every result we get. If someone does something to us, we are responsible for how we react to the situation. We are in control of all our situations, even if we are out of control, we are responsible for that too.
Once a thought or idea is accepted as truth by our conscious mind, it acts upon those thoughts and beliefs as though it were our reality. We really are the creators or designers of our lives. We are unconsciously creating our lives by default, or we consciously design our lives. All of the things that you think about, speak about, write about, you bring about, whether it is positive or negative. You have to take control of the things that you are creating in your life. We breathe life into all of our thoughts and ideas so we have to be mindful of our thoughts and spoken word.
If you do not like the things that are happening in your life, you have to change your thoughts. That is the only way that you can change your reality. Remember that it is the dominant thought that brings about your reality. To change your thoughts from what is occurring right now in your reality you might have to tell yourself the opposite of what is happening. If you tell yourself a lie long enough it will become your reality. One day when you do not feel so great, yell out at the top of your lungs and wave your hands in the air and say, I Feel Superfantastic. Say it with a smile on your face, even if it is a fake smile. Continue saying it until you feel better. I guarantee that after saying it about five times, you will shake the sticky spirit off that once existed. That is an example of telling yourself a lie or the opposite of how you really feel and the new thoughts or words becoming your reality.
I said all of this to say that you can deliberately choose what you desire or you can allow it to happen by default. You can think that life is a series of random events that you have no control over, or you can take responsibility for your lives and make them happen. If you are tired of just letting things happen, starts slowing down your thought processes enough so that you are not always reacting to situations, but you are responding to them. You actually have a choice in what you are going to think, what you are going to say, and how you are going to respond to events that occur in your life.
Dr. Rorree Tillman is an author, Transformational Life Coach, and Shakti Healer.
She has written Recipe for Prosperity and The Prosperity Formula.
With Dr. Tillman you will manifest your desires, heal emotionally, physically, and financially.
http://www.RorreeTillman.com
Success Can Cause an Adaptation Crisis
Focusing your thoughts to imagine a better life works. For decades I have tested and studied and worked in my own life and with many clients and friends to experience over and over that mind power is effective. Very effective.
You attract more and more of what you focus on. When you use your thoughts to focus it can be laser sharp. When you charge those thoughts with feelings, those feelings can color the manifestation of those thoughts.
Buddha has said that all that we are arises from our thoughts. This article is not about proving that thought power works incredibly. This article is to help you from my extensive experience, For me to help you to realize that WHEN you succeed to apply a method or technique to imagine an improvement in your life it will have an effect. And that effect which is caused by your action will have an impact on you.
That impact is what often is experienced as what I am calling the crisis of change.
The more powerful the results that you realize from your work with mind power to make your dreams come true in real life, the more you are at risk to experience the side effects and dangers of change shock.
Lets take the example of someone who is in a relationship, who applies a technique to visualize and imagine they have a better relationship. Then they meet someone and start a better relationship. And suddenly the old relationship is ending and all the stress and adaptation and fears and insecurities about starting a new relationship are part of the experience of this person we are imagining here.
Or someone imagines that they have a new job. And they get a new job. And that means a whole new adaptation to a whole new situation.
A person who imagines a lot more money, and they get it, and now they have to figure out a new tax situation and relate to people differently and shopping is a new and more demanding experience!
At one time I got a new computer and my idea was to switch from my old computer to my new better faster computer. My imagination to manifest a new computer worked brilliantly. Now I had two computers and imagined working with them both in a whole new setup. It turned out that as much as I liked the new situation it was a lot of work to make the changeover and it took a lot of time and I did not realize how much I had got comfortable with the way I had the old computer set up. Change shock.
The main purpose of my writing this today is so that you can simply realize that change shock exists. So that you prepare for it. So that when you imagine something new and better in your life, you also imagine that the surrounding conditions are supportive and easy. For example when I imagine a new car I imagine that the fuel, and insurance, and parking, and maintenance are all taken care of too.
Jorj Elprehzleinn is a happy spiritual being having a human experience in the material world. His techniques, insights, and assistance in the right use of thought and mind power are based on a lifetime of research and personal experience.
His web site is:
http://www.FocusYourMindonHappiness.com
Be A Dreamer
Don’t settle for mediocrity, and don’t settle for just getting by. The universe wants to give you everything in abundance and wants to give you the life that you dream of. So many people, including myself, at certain times settled for a nine to five job, getting the bills paid, and watching their dreams fade.
Don’t be afraid to fail, or fear that you are asking for too much. Ask, put it out there, visualize it, and keep dreaming about it, keep working towards it until it becomes a reality.
Just because you are dreaming big, doesn’t mean that you don’t have to work your tail off. You do have to work. You have to create opportunities for yourself, you have to listen to the holy spirit who can give you guidance as how to do something, who to meet, or where to do it. Then you have to go and do it, meet the person that you need to meet, do the work, raise the money, follow up, encourage yourself, keep working and perfecting yourself in your craft, keep
challenging yourself.
Finally when what you have been dreaming about is presented to you, you have to receive it. Don’t hesitate when opportunities come your way. Don’t talk defeat to yourself and say that you are not worthy, etc. This is just one of these mental loops. Receive and receive big.
Dreams are done in little steps. You mount each step before you get up to the gold medal platform. Your step leads you to be in the right place for the next part to be given to you. Receive! Step up!! You need to learn to recognize the right moments and the help that is given to you along the way. You need to discern within yourself when something is part of your dream. or when or when you are being misled. Listening within to the Spirit of the Light will keep you on the right path towards your dream. You have to recognize when, even though something seems very little, it could be a very significant step for your dream to become a reality. You have to trust that prompting and leading.
But in following your dream, you still need to keep your discipline, your purity of heart and mind, and your childlike spirit. When you have wealth, and your dreams are fulfilled, it is also easy to lose everything by being corrupted by greed, drugs, alcohol and addictions, arrogance, waste, and impure living.
You need to do everything with balance. You need to maintain balance in your dreams and your life. You need to have gratitude for the places that you have reached and the help that you received along the way. Remember, no one does it alone. God and the universe helped you each step of the way. Family and friends, and other people helped you, and believed in you, and gave to your dream. God and the universe create abundance also so that you can share that great fortune with those that have less than you. But giving also needs to be done with balance. To determine when you give, and to whom you give, you need to seek the Holy Spirit’s guidance.
Everything is interrelated.
One of the biggest elements to achieving your dreams is to trust the universe that you are being led to the right person or place, that God wants the absolute best for your life and wants you to reach the biggest dreams that you can imagine. Dream big, talk big, and work for it. Trust that God really wants you to live your dream and be very happy. Keep yourself open to new promptings, and new things, because you never know where they might lead you. God is a god of abundance and wants you to succeed, and want you do what makes you happy and joyful.
If you achieve your dreams with balance, and live your life with balance, you will always maintain that joyful place. Don’t get caught up with the status of something, or the designer names. In five years or twenty years from now, those things won’t mean anything to you or anybody. How you lived your life, for yourself, your family and children– that is what matters. What you gave, how you encouraged, or who was with you at that moment is important. At the end of your life can you look back and say, “I did everything that I wanted to do. I really enjoyed this life, and the people that were here. I did well.”
Look around you and you will see someone dreams that have long since become real. Walt Disney was a man with a great dream and vision. Disney Land, Disney World, and the Epcot Center were some of his dreams. Millions of visitors pass through his properties every day and share his vision and dreams. They live it. Famous Amos created some of the most delicious chocolate chip cookies in America. He marketed his cookies himself. First he sold them to his friends and family, and then he began to market the cookies on a bigger scale. The demand became so great, that I’m sure he had to hire several people, and he certainly achieved millionaire status. Mary Kay Cosmetics was created by one woman who sold her products door to door; now the world over knows the name Mary Kay Cosmetics. Microsoft Office is known around the world and it is packaged on nearly 80% of computers sold. Steve Jobs started Apple computer in his garage. Now the Mac computer is probably the second most popular computer in the world.
Whatever you like to do, whatever you like to work with, can become a huge success. Passion helps to launch dreams. You have to put your heart and soul into it. You have to work to break through. But once you do you will have achieved the whole world. A singer can sing all over the world. Gourmet Food can be shipped all over the world. Skin care products are known by women and men anywhere. Live it, dream it, put it out there, but do it, don’t wait. This day is gone tomorrow.copyright 2006 Yoga Kat
Yoga Kat teaches children’s yoga ages 3-6, 7-12yrs and Adults in NJ. The Author of the book DAUGHTER BELOVED and created a children’s affirmation CD and an adult affirmation CD. Available for speaking and reached at yogakat@verizon.net or 201 970-9340–COMING SOON -http://www.thecircleofpeace.com
Working With Compassion
If you develop compassion for people and all creatures you can reach out to them. You can offer help to them. You will be able to feel their situation. You will see them clearly not for the circumstances that they find themselves but in who they can become. You will recognize the beauty inside of them. You will recognize that they are very much like yourself. You can empathize with them. Once you do that you may be able to help them affect a change. Or do it for them. You can have compassion for one person, for a whole country, or a whole area, or for the whole world. You can develop compassion for every creature.
When you act with compassion, you are able to see with clarity, that the person in front of you does not know who they truly are in the spirit. You will see that they do not recognize their own choices, or their own worth, or their own beauty. Perhaps you will see their strength even though they feel weak.
Compassion helps you to overcome obstacles on behalf of someone/something that you might not otherwise attempt to overcome. Compassion motivates you and stirs you to change. Laws and situations have been changed because of one person to thousands of people filled with compassion working in a unified manner.
There have been articles written on how animals with compassion have saved other animals and humans. There was one article about a wolf that had compassion for a man who had been lost in the wilderness in the winter. The wolf stayed with the man several days and kept a watch on him so that the other wolves would not come close to him. On one particular day the man had gone without food for several days and the wolf showed up with a freshly killed rabbit and dropped it in the snow for him so that he would not starve to death.
Another time the man said that he felt like the wolf was leading him. When he followed the wolf for several miles, the wolf had led him to a cluster of big heavy pine trees and a place on the ground underneath that was covered with dozens of twigs and pine branches like a bed. It was a protected place from the snow, wind and predators. The wolf might have given up his bed for this man. The man said that without the wolf’s compassion he would never had survived.
There are many articles about dolphins who have rescued people, have risked their own life to fight off sharks for them, and have carried them to safety. I saw a news story on the television about a small boy who had fallen into the gorilla’s cage at a zoo right in front of about five gorillas. One gorilla first came to the unconscious boy to examine him. The boy began to wake up and was quite startled and began to wail in pain and fear. The gorilla did something extraordinary and picked up the boy and carried him to the entrance where the handlers and the food comes out. Then the gorilla stepped back from the entrance so that the handlers could enter and retrieve the injured boy without a problem. That is an extraordinary act of compassion!! One creature was moved to help another.
Thank God, that we have also been moved by compassion to help our fellow human beings and animals in times that they have become hapless or that have been injured or trapped. That we can ban together to help a creature in need. Always remember that we might have been in dire need once upon a time or that someday we could be that person who finds ourselves in a terrible situation. Have compassion on others and remember to have compassion on yourself.copyright 2006 Yoga Kat
Yoga Kat teaches children’s yoga ages 3-6, 7-12yrs and Adults in NJ. The Author of the book DAUGHTER BELOVED and created a children’s affirmation CD and an adult affirmation CD. Available for speaking and reached at yogakat@verizon.net or 201 970-9340–COMING SOON -http://www.thecircleofpeace.com
Leading Through Change
Being a strong change catalyst is critical to being an effective mentor. In order to “inspire others to continually strive for higher levels of performance through creative and strategic methods that are always focused to achieving your goals” you must move through the personal emotions that change creates so that you can effectively lead others. Here are some critical suggestions for assisting you in developing strong change management skills in order to assist the organization through transition periods.
1. Communicate upwards, not downwards or sideways.
During any type of change, it is natural to gain insight from your peers or to speak with people who report to you. When a change is first announced, most people react emotionally not logically. So if you are communicating to others based on emotion, you may be releasing some feelings that are not conducive to moving forward with new processes. Focus your communication with those above you for the purpose of understanding more of the reasons, results and ramifications of the change. Once you have information and feel comfortable with the direction, your communication downwards and sideways will be more logical in nature, rather than emotional. At this time your communication will assist the organization in consistently getting out the right message and helping others through their adaptation process. If negative or emotions escape, they are difficult to overcome later and may be detrimental to the success of the organization.
2. Hear others concerns without feeding into them.
You will be hearing many things during a time of change. Some information will be true, some will be assumptions, some will be misunderstandings and some will be created. Focus on what is being said and understanding the feelings. By asking more questions than making statements, you will be acknowledging the feelings of others without contributing to any true or false impressions. By asking strategic questions, you will also be helping others to assess their feelings and gain new insights.
3. Ask questions.
Times of change are not times to be silent. It is not advised that you stuff your feelings, simply channel them in productive directions. Ask questions and seek to understand everything you need to know. Do not be afraid to ask the same questions over and over. Management is there to support the changes and help guide your journey to success.
4. Note your feelings and actions.
Change is definitely a process. Many times change invokes initial fears of inadequacy or uncertainly. Then you may feel confusion and may feel as though everything was going along just fine before and now you feel a sense of disorder or chaos. Then you may experience times of disappointment or anger because this was not your vision or your idea of how things should be. Then there are times of hesitancy as you try the new methods but still feel comfortable with the old ways. And finally there is acceptance. This is now the time for the “new norm”. Things start to settle down and everyone falls into alignment with the new plan. Understand the stages of your feelings and ensure that you are moving in a positive direction through the continuum.
5. Gather followers.
Surround yourself with positive influences and those who are successfully finding their way through the maze of changes. Look to them for answers and direction. Latch on to these change catalysts and follow their lead. They know the way.
6. Embrace the opportunity!
Change is always a little scary because it is a place of unknown entities. Take time to explore the new picture and find where you feel comfortable in the grand scheme of things. Everyone must find their place in the new state of the organization. Look for opportunities of growth. Take this time to learn about yourself and explore your strengths. Seize this opportunity and look for ways to capitalize on the transformations. These changes may open up doors for you that you never knew existed. Seize this moment to drive your destiny!
With 23 years of call center experience, national speaker and author, Kimberly King, helps clients create WOW customer experiences. You will be WOWed by her passion and knowledge. http://www.interweavecorp.com or 877-969-3283.
Magnetic Attraction, You Are The Company You Keep
Does the expression “birds of a feather flock together” or “like and like attracts each other” say anything to you? If it does, you may not have linked the saying to yourself and to the kind of people you have around you.
If you truly want prosperity, happiness and success, it is imperative to be aware of the people you attract and surround yourself with. You cannot aim for exceptional transformation in your life, while continuing to keep with the old gang of mediocrity or as some people call them ‘duds’ who drain your energy.
This, however, does not mean you have to go around ditching all your old friends and colleagues. Taking such an impulsive action can plunge you into another deep end, where you could find yourself all alone.
What is required of you is to develop strong, clear inner awareness, if you’re seeking to transform your life. Everything in life is governed by the natural Law of Motion. This is responsible for regulating your inner evolution which eventually manifests in your world.
In other words, your inner development determines the outer changes around you.
Let’s say you came to the realization that you’ve outgrown the kind of life you’ve been living until now. And you have a strong perception to turn things around. What happens is that your vibration changes because of your inner shift. Things which have formerly meant something to you, no longer fascinate you. Same thing goes for the kind of people around you. The magic is gone.
You start to feel drawn to other kinds of people. Especially, if you consciously determine the kind of people you want to be with.
I have observed this process on many occasions with myself. There was a particular time I felt that certain people around me were holding me back. What I did was to search within myself for the hidden reason I had for keeping those friends.
As soon as I was honest with myself, I was able to recognise what it was. This was because they looked up to me and made me feel special. Talk about miscrossed ’self communication’! With my inner awareness also came the strength to escape from my self-alloted imprisonment. In time, my dissatisfaction created a natural distance to those friends who no longer were ideal for me. The result was a natural separation.
There are numerous reasons why people hold on to old relationships even if it is killing their image and getting them nowhere. If you find yourself wanting to hold on to a stale friendship try the following:
1. Write down what it is you think you’re getting from the relationship on one piece of paper. On another piece of paper right down what irks you about the relationship.
2. When you’ve finished jotting down all the points you can think of, put the two sheets of paper aside for a day or two.
3. The next time you pick up the lists read through them quickly while asking yourself “what kind of relationship do I now require from this person, and am I getting it”? Again, write down your answers.
4. Next, ask yourself what kind of relationship you want to reciprocate with the person, and if you are giving it now. If you’re not, what is holding you back? Be really honest and write down your answers.
5. Now take the list of what you least like about the relationship and cross check it with your answers to the kind of relationship you now require and what you would like to give back.
My guess is that you’ll be surprised by what you find. I have done this simple exercise several times with various people and by myself. What it reveals is often amazing and can help clarify things for you. Because it elicits true perspectives.
Magical Universe Online Success Checklist
I see you now.
You’re sitting there at your computer, surfing the net, feeling a heaviness in your chest.
It’s late evening.
Outside the window, the moon has again drifted behind the clouds.
The clock in the right hand corner of your screen is marking away the passing hours.
You know that you should be in bed. Tomorrow is going to be another long day.
Still, you’re there thinking: “It’s not even the money. It’s the freedom. It’s the freedom to just stay at home all day and do my own thing. If only there were some clear guidelines on how to tap into the magical universe and create success online.”
Then your eyes fall on this letter written just for you, and you smile, because here are 10 magical keys to open up the door to the freedom and abundance and self-expression you seek.
Magic key #1: Set an intention. Write it out. This is both your inner lighthouse and a way for the universe to know exactly what it is that you want.
Magic key #2: Follow your hunch. Your intention has activated your subconscious mind and the universal law of attraction. It’s important you don’t squelch your intuitions. Allow a little room to be outrageous. Sometimes miracles, the big ones, aren’t tame, but wild and exciting.
Magic key #3: Get a notepad and divide the page in half. On the right side, fill out what you want the universe to do. On the left side, fill out what you are going to do.
Magic key #4: Take daily action on your list. And, as the universe does it’s part, express gratitude, and don’t forget to celebrate. There is nothing more important than feeling good to put you into vibration with your desires.
Magic key #5: Go to the forums where your people hang out. Those who can advise you, those who can inspire you, and also those who want to buy what you have to sell. They may not all be in the same place. You may need several stomping grounds. Seek community.
Magic key #6: Make friends. Online, offline. Expand and uplift your energy through connection with others.
Magic key #7: Write articles and write free books that you can give away. Let people know how good you really are at what you do.
Magic key #8: Post testimonials from books you’ve enjoyed and ask that your URL be placed underneath your testimonial to increase back links to your website, increase your flow of traffic as people click through out of curiosity, and expand your sense of goodwill to the author who inspired you in some way, even if it were only one idea in a 100 page book.
Magic key #9: Again, this is about giving. Give some money to someone who has inspired you in some way. You need not give to those who need it, just those who have touched your life in some way. I remember that I used to give $20 to the library whenever I visited because its books nourished me and within a few days I would receive a tenfold return. The best way to guarantee your return is if you abide by all laws of seeding first.
Magic key #10: Give yourself away. Help people. Be a person others turn to when they need a friend. Share your time and talent with others and amazing things will multiply for you.
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