Learning To Respond To Past Memories
I want you to try to return to your cradle. Do you remember the time when you lay in the cradle kicking up your toes - and possibly kicking up a row at the same time?
Do you remember the time when you were taking your first lesson in walking, and the floor seemed to wobble a good deal, and you tried to steady things by balancing yourself a little heavily on one leg and then on the other, and finally finished up by making a slight dent in the linoleum with the point of your poor little nose?
Do you remember the time when you had an idea that anything and everything in this world existed simply and solely for your special purposes, and that all you had to do in order to obtain your desire at all times was to put out your hands for it? And if you did not get just what you put your hands out for, and have your wish immediately gratified, how you would yell with an extremely great lustiness, and keep up the din until you were practically exhausted?
Do you remember the time when you first went to school, and some other little boy (or some other little girl) made faces at you, or threw mud at you, or did something else similarly mean, so that you had an overpowering realization that this is a wicked, wicked world indeed; and that there is only one place within the vast confines of this vale of woe where any God’s child can ever expect to exist in peace and comfort, and this place was at your mother’s knee - a place where by snuggling you could shut out the bad exterior world from your vision?
Probably you do not remember any of these things; nevertheless, no memories are lost. The memories of every experience which we have undergone from the cradle are stored in the great unconscious mind; and many of these memories can be recalled under certain conditions and by certain procedures.
By means of the analytic method we now know that our temperamental characteristics and general mental attitudes are what they are solely by reason of the influences of this vast deposit of buried memories. We know, also, that our conscious conduct is largely motivated by these buried memories. We know, in fact, that we think as we do, and feel as we do, wholly by reason of the existence of these stupendous unconscious influences.
You have heard such terms as subconscious mind, unconscious mind, subliminal mind, and various other sorts of minds. Let us simplify things by considering the two very matter-of-fact terms conscious and unconscious.
The conscious mind needs no special definition, for we will consider it in the ordinary sense in which the term is used - to mean the reasoning faculties. By the term unconscious, psychoanalysts mean anything and everything that is not conscious.
Please don’t think of the term unconscious as an adjective, however. When I use the term unconscious I do not mean an unconscious mental condition, but a mental place.
Every memory that becomes stored in the unconscious has some intensifying or neutralizing influence on previously stored memories of similar complexion; and every time that you have held a thought in the consciousness in relation to a memory (thinking), you have produced a certain modification of some sort or other on this stored mental material. The thoughts that come up into the consciousness as a result of a stirring up by means of attention are therefore derived from these tremendous possibilities.
The consciousness is only a very puny mental area in comparison with the vast extent of unconscious thought activities existing beneath it. Not a billionth part of the memories of past experiences is available for direct utilization; nevertheless they all influence the conscious conduct - directly or indirectly. In fact, these influences constitute the actual foundations of the personality.
The results of conscious attention in liberating memories in the unconscious mental storehouse are governed wholly by what are in reality mechanical processes; nevertheless the nature and extent of these possibilities are fabulous.
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Attracting More Money!
When it comes to money, most of us were raised to believe there is a lack of abundance in the world–a limited amount of money and resources that we must fight over like rats competing over scraps of cheese.
Not that many years ago, I had this same belief. I remember when I first read The Science of Getting Rich, by Wallace Wattles. This classic work is based on the philosophy of Monism which claims there is no limit to the abundance of the world, and whatever appears in our lives is the merely the result of our habitual way of thinking.
At the time, I was definitely not ready to hear this, and my logical mind began to ridicule the idea as superstitious mumbo jumbo. But the more I learned about the mind, and the power our subconscious mind, I slowly began to understand that we do create our own lives: we create our own limitations; and we create our own success, failure, luck, and yes, even our own wealth.
As I studied more and moved beyond the initial disbelief, it became clear that I needed to make some changes in my life-I began to see that I had created my life exactly as it was (both the good and the bad), and in order to get a different result, I would need to create something different.
One of my first steps was to begin replacing my old belief in lack and limitation with a new belief in abundance and infinite potential, and this required me to take a (sometimes unpleasant) look at the habits I had developed over the years.
I had grown very accustomed to looking at the world, myself and money in a certain way. We all do this to some point-we “settle” on a particular way of seeing the world (our paradigm) and go about our lives without thinking about it much it all.
I came to see that I was running on autopilot the majority of the time. My beliefs and habits did not always serve me very well, but I was comfortable with them, like an old faded blanket, so I simply allowed the “program” to run, unquestioned.
But in order to change my habitual way of “seeing” the world, I had to replace my old way of thinking with new habits and new beliefs. And the primary way I achieved this was by repetition.
Repetition is how humans learn everything. Think about driving a car: you practice over and over until you don’t have to think about it any longer-at that point you are simply running on autopilot-your subconscious mind has taken over and you have internalized the new habits and beliefs.
The more often we remind ourselves of our new habits and beliefs, the quicker we assimilate them into our life, and one very effective way of speeding up this process is through the practice of visualization. Try this simple exercise:
When you first wake in the morning, sit in meditation for a few minutes. Visualize your life exactly as you would like it too be, including the income you would like to have. Remind yourself that there is no lack-no limitation. Become the abundance that is all around you.
And then at night as you are ready to fall asleep, visualize the same abundance and success in your life, and express gratitude that this abundance is already on its way to you.
Finally, I recommend making a gratitude list everyday (even 4-5 times a day if you have time!). Gratitude is the easiest way to bring abundance into your life. It pushes all the right abundance “buttons” when you focus your attention on what you are grateful for, and brings you into harmony with the good that you want.
Gratitude is a part of nearly all wealth attractions methods, and with good reason: it works! Make it your habit to never let the sun go down without giving thanks for what is good and right in your life. And you don’t always have to write it down-make a mental gratitude list if you like. I often do this in the car or while waiting for an appointment.
In fact, I’ve made gratitude lists for so long now that I tend to do it everyday automatically. Through repetition, gratitude has become my habitual way of thinking, and so my mind automatically turns to the subject without having to think much about it.
You see, this autopilot thing can actually work for you, as well as against you. Through repetition, you decide what your “autopilot” will be set on: lack and limitation, or prosperity and wealth. As always, the choice is entirely yours.
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5 Ingredients For Success In Law of Attraction
In this article, I will outline 5 ingredients for success in the Law of Attraction. Make the Law of Attraction a part of your life to achieve your goals and dreams. Whatever you want in your life, you can accomplish. Be it wealth, health, happiness, love and more.
Ingredient 1 is The Science of Getting Rich
There is a book that you should read to help you fully understand the Law of Attraction and how it can help you in your life with anything you want to achieve. The Science of Getting Rich, by Wallace D. Wattles can help guide you through how you can change your negative thoughts, doubts, worries, and fears into positive thinking and how this will help you achieve what you want in your life.
Ingredient 2 is Thoughts Become Reality
Your thoughts do actually physically manifest themselves in your life. Therefore, when you think negatively, those thoughts will bring about negative things in your life, ie. things you do not want. Negative thoughts attract negative events and things. The Law of Attraction can help you change your way of thinking. When you think positively you will attract positive things in your life. Your positive thinking can help you make those positive things in your life become a reality.
Ingredient 3 is Redirect Your Energy
You can redirect your energy by controlling your thoughts. Remember your thoughts do not have control over you, you are the one (and the only one) who can change the way you think. If you are like most people, you might constantly think about what you do not have. This is a waste of your energy and incurs negative thoughts about your life and yourself. You need to redirect your energy to be grateful for everything, and everyone you have in your life. By being grateful you will realize that you have a lot more than you thought you did, that you may not need more material things, that you have accomplished more in your life than you are giving yourself credit for, and that you can achieve what you want in your life. This takes the focus off of the negative thoughts of what you do not have, what you cannot have, and what you wish you had and redirects your energy toward being grateful for your life and everything in it.
Ingredient 4 is Visualization and Goal Setting
Positive visualization and proper goal setting is the platform from which you jumpstart your life and reaching your dreams. With positive visualization you can help your mind think positively and attract positive things in your life. You should spend at least five minutes a day with visualization. You should feel peaceful, relaxed, and calm. Visualize your goals and dreams using all of your senses. Visualize yourself as the person who has already accomplished these goals and dreams.
Ingredient 5 is Positive Actions Bring You What You Want
None of these ingredients of the Law of Attraction will work for you if you do nothing to make them happen. You must take action toward accomplishing your goals and dreams. Take the necessary steps to get there and you will.
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Leading Your Way To Success
Unless you are a leader in your work, you cannot succeed greatly because great people know how to lead others. If your work is making, handling or creating things, or if it is using words, or if it is managing and directing people, you do not succeed unless you lead in your particular line of work.
There are thousands-yes, millions-of people who work well and faithfully from youth to old age. Yet, they never attain to that which we call success. By efficient work, they just hold their own. They do not succeed greatly, because they do not lead in the work they do.
But; if you make better things than others make, or make them a little more rapidly, or more efficiently, you lead in making things and your reward is success in that line.
If you handle things more effectively than others handle them, you become a leader in handling things, and your leadership brings you success.
If you create things-that is, discover or invent them-you become a leader by creating things, and attain to success, providing that you render service by marketing the things you create.
If you work with words, you may use them as does a copyist, or a stenographer, and not succeed greatly in life. In using words, the stenographer is usually a follower-following the use of words, which are dictated by another.
So long as the stenographer remains a follower in the use of words, he can improve his position only by increase of speed, or accuracy, or neatness. But, if in part, he becomes a leader in the use of words-able to use them so that he can take charge of a part of the correspondence of his employer-he becomes a leader in his field, and his compensation is doubled.
There is always a possibility of securing increased compensation and abundance, by one phase of leadership-no matter in what field of work you find yourself!
Of course, there are other fields of leadership in the use of words. The person who thinks vividly and expresses himself in vivid imagery, leads all others. He becomes the great author, the great dramatist, the great orator, the great preacher, the great attorney, or the great public leader who inspires us and leads us to a higher and more efficient life.
In justice, the compensation, which the world gives, not only for different kinds of work, but for leadership in each kind of work, varies. If you lead in doing things, you receive a certain compensation. If you lead in using words, you receive a greater compensation. If you lead in handling people, you attain to the great reward-for, such leadership is the most difficult and the most needed.
There are only three fields of work: (1) making, handling, or creating things, (2) using words; and (3) leading and directing people.
Choose the field in which you wish to lead, on the dual basis of ability and service-the field in which you can render the greatest service to others for the longest time. Your native ability is the first factor, which determines your choice, and the needs of others is the second. Of this second factor, it seems unnecessary to write a word-for you know that you will fail if you choose a work which others do not need, just as you would fail if you should invest in a factory to make one-horse shays!
Determine your skill set, become a leader in that skill set, find a need and start trying to fill it. Then hold on to your hat because you’re on the way to becoming an entrepreneur.
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Decision Making Is Your Key to Success
Say you want to make a change in your life. What do you do?
Will simply wanting to change your life someday make it happen?
Probably not.
Will putting that wish in writing make it happen? Maybe, but probably not.
To make a significant change in your life, you’ve got to go about it the right way, or else it will fall by the wayside like a wish to start your own business, stop smoking, or learn another language. There’s a world of difference between wish making and decision making. Decision making is your key to success.
The word decision actually means to cut off all other options. That’s pretty decisive. For many different reasons, some people have a really hard time with decision making.
Maybe they’re afraid they’ll get themselves into a bad situation with no way out. Maybe they fear they’ll fail, so they don’t even go for it. Maybe they’re worried about what other people will say.
Even though many people would certainly say they wish they could make more money, be happier, get along better with others, get in shape, or live in a healthier way, for most people, it’s always just a wish. Moving from wish to decision is crucial for anyone who wants to make a big change.
We make decisions all the time, whether we’re aware of it or not. Some decisions are made in auto-pilot mode, and that works well in some cases, but not in others.
When you engage in a bad habit, you’re making a decision to continue self defeating behavior. When you engage in positive behavior, you decide to do that, too.
We make decisions based on our thoughts and emotions. Then our decisions bring about our actions, and our actions bring about results.
So how do you do what you need to do? You start with a committed decision. What do you want? How do you plan to get it? What’s involved, what’s required of you in order to move forward toward your goal?
One decision you make stays the same during the whole journey toward your dream, that decision is your goal, what you’re aiming for, what you want.
On the way there, you’ve got a host of decisions to make, too. Each day, you decide what attitude you’ll have, what you’ll do with your time and energy, how you’ll talk and think about your goal, what tactics you’ll engage to move forward. Each decision you make automatically cuts off lots of other options.
One of our clients, Pam, decided to start a Network Marketing business last year. She decided that within a year, she’d be at the level where she’d get paid to drive a white Mercedes-Benz.
She decided that she’d build her business by building a team of other motivated consultants. She decided that she’d do whatever it took to get to her goal, even if it felt uncomfortable. She’d do it even if it felt hopeless. She’d do it even if she didn’t feel like it.
Each day, as she got ready to work her business, she knew what to do. This is because her decision determined her to do list.
She’d cut off her other options, it wasn’t an option for her to spend the day watching reality tv. It wasn’t an option to quit after ten people in a row said, “No thank you.”
Now, a year later, she’s right on the edge of qualifying for that car! If she’d been wishy-washy all along, she’d probably have quit. Making a decision and sticking with it has been her key to success.
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The Focus Factor
There’s a thing called autosuggestion, and by regularly reviewing the details of your goals, you’re doing it. When you give your goal the focus factor, you visualize it and firmly plant an image of achieving this goal into your sub-conscious mind. You’ve made a massive deposit into the vault, and now it’s going to start vibrating, attracting results that will bring it to fruition.
Make this process work more efficiently by rewriting this goal in great detail every day for a month. Use your Vision on Demand technology to visualize it, and turn it over and over in your mind, adding in all of the sensory details. What are the sounds, sights, smells, tastes, feelings of achieving this goal? Give your goal the focus factor daily, because doing this is like fertilizing the seed you’ve planted. Keep the weeds away by rejecting thoughts that contradict your goal. Protect it. You don’t want to parade your dream in front of people who don’t get it, and don’t support your efforts. They’ll spray their toxic beliefs all over you, and you’ll have a harder time if you allow yourself to be exposed to that.
By getting your goal crystal clear in your mind, down to the smallest detail, and by visualizing yourself as already having achieved it, you put yourself into a great vibration. You need to understand that by doing this, you have your success already, in your mind and your emotions. All that separates you from having it physically is time. How much time? Just the right amount and probably less than you’d imagine. How will it happen? The how will appear if you stay focused on the what of your goal.
There will be days when your goal seems impossible. If your goal is big enough, you’ll run into obstacles. Most obstacles are big enough to stop most people in their tracks. You’ve got to want your goal badly enough that you won’t let go. The emotional ups and downs of going after something big are just part of the journey, you learn to course-correct, to find more effective ways to go for it.
Your job is to take massive, meaningful action in the direction of your goal. Carry your goal with you on an index card. Just knowing it’s with you, just touching that card in your pocket is enough to remind and recharge you. Focus on your vibration and your actions rather than results, focus on your vision. Keep walking, running toward your goal day after day.
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Laws of Success
Just as there are physical laws that govern how the physical world works, gravity, for example, there are also laws that govern how the universe works. Understanding these laws is critical to achieving success, learn them and work with them, not against them.
1. The Law of Perpetual Transmutation
Basically, this law states that what starts as energy changes into what is physical. Everything around you, everything you see, hear, smell, touch, or taste began as energy.
The vibration of that energy forms what is physical. Everything is in constant motion, and that motion is always changing. Energy can not be created or destroyed, just moved and changed. Our thoughts make themselves manifest in the physical world. In other words, what we think about, we bring about.
2. The Law of Relativity
The way we perceive any object, thing, person, or idea is always relative to how we see another object, thing, person, or idea. It’s the way we gauge what we see, bigger, smaller, good, bad, better, worse. The whole universe is designed to work together, with all the laws corresponding rather than conflicting.
All the laws apply equally to everything in the universe regardless of their size, strength, or awareness of the laws. Everything in the universe has its own rate of vibration, high, low, and in-between, we can only evaluate the rate of vibration based on a comparison with the rates of other things.
In your life, you see this law played out as you compare yourself to other people. You are reasonably attractive, right? Now, say someone enters the room who has entirely unfortunate looks, you feel simply gorgeous in comparison. But what if a supermodel enters the room next? How good-looking are you then? It’s all relative. The core of this law is that everything in life just “is”, our perception shapes how we experience it.
3. The Law of Vibration
This law says that nothing is at rest in the universe, it’s all constantly vibrating. Our awareness of that vibration is what we call feeling. Our feelings are determined by vibration, and we determine our rate of vibration by our thoughts and the paradigms we use to look at life.
You’ve experienced this if you’ve ever walked into an office or house where people were just quarreling. The tension in the air is thick enough to cut with a knife, and you instantly know you’ve interrupted something unpleasant.
Our thoughts consist of vibrations we send out to the universe. When we focus or concentrate on our thoughts, the vibrations grow stronger. Thoughts are the strongest vibration to move through the universe.
God created the whole universe, all that there is, seen and invisible from nothing, using thoughts and words. People are the only creation who share the power of thought with the Creator, and that makes us special.
This power to think, this gift of spirit, is what it means to be created in the image of God. Our thoughts and prayers are very powerful, affecting the physical world we live in.
Our awareness of vibration is what we call our feelings. We see what it’s like to be in a negative vibration when we say, “I feel bad today.” A positive vibration shows when we say, “I feel great today!”
Since vibration originates with our thoughts, we can control whether we live in a positive or negative vibration pattern. You use your brain to choose which thoughts you’ll entertain, it doesn’t choose a vibration itself. You’re the master of your thoughts, of your vibration. Your thoughts steer your central nervous system into the vibration you choose.
Your mind is a storehouse of images, positive and negative, whatever you allow to take up room there. If you choose to dredge up, examine, and review the negative, you will move into a negative vibration, negative feelings will immediately follow. The reverse is true, positive thoughts lead to positive vibration and a positive mood.
4. The Law of Polarity
Everything has an equal opposite, up and down, good and bad, empty and full. There is no such thing as a one-sided coin. No object has only a left side without a right side.
Because everything not only has an opposite, but the opposite is also equal, we’ve got an immutable law that we can understand. If you measure the room and find it is eighteen feet from the wall to the door, you’ll find it’s also eighteen feet from the door to the wall.
Seems pretty obvious, but the understanding of this law will really change how you look at life. Say something you think is really bad happens to you, according to the Law of Polarity, there must be something equally good about it, too. Mathematically, if something happens to you that you see as only being a little bit bad, the flipside is that there’s also a little bit of good in that, too.
Because of the Law of Polarity, you also get to choose your thoughts on every occurrence in life, is this a good thing or a bad thing? In reality, it just is. But you have the privilege of interpretation, you can choose to view it as a positive or a negative. From that choice, you set vibration in motion, determine your feelings, and ultimately your actions and results.
5. The Law of Rhythm
The whole universe moves in a repetitive rhythm. The tides, the seasons, day and night, we can count on these regular patterns to stay constant. If anything moves forward, something else must move backward; if anything grows greater, something else shrinks.
Every action causes a reaction, and results in a rhythmic swinging of vibration. You see this law at work every day in the peak and decline of your energy, the ups and downs that you experience, the way that our days are sometimes full and busy and sometimes slow and lazy.
It’s helpful to realize that our moods have a natural rhythm of ups and downs, and that even in the midst of a relatively down mood, we’ve still got control of our thoughts. Choosing good thoughts, even when we feel down, propels us into a positive vibration, evening out our emotions and keeping us moving toward our goals.
6. The Law of Cause and Effect
This law states that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. What you send out into the universe comes back. Luck, chance, and accidents are non-existent. Everything in the universe is subject to universal laws, and everything that happens does so because it was caused.
We see the result of this law in the physical world, in our health, our bank accounts, and how people treat us. The way we get results we want is by working on the cause behind them. A changed cause must produce a changed effect.
One way to change your cause is to focus on it, using positive affirmations to point you in the direction you wish to go. In each area of your life, develop positive statements you can repeat in your mind regularly. These affirmations should be in the present tense, carefully crafted to focus you on what you really want.
7. The Law of Gender
This law describes how every seed has a gestation period. We see it in nature all the time, you plant carrot seeds, and can expect to wait about seventy days before the carrot is ready to eat. If you conceive a child, it takes about forty weeks for the baby to be born.
The same is true for ideas. They are spiritual seeds, and take time to become manifest. You must be patient when you plant a spiritual seed, an idea. It will show itself in physical form when the time is right.
Every idea that is given energy moves into the physical world. Everything in the universe has a masculine and feminine side. We see it in every person and animal, and even in the plant world.
The principle of both male and female in all things makes potential, regeneration, and motion possible. Both male and female are required for life to exist. This law demonstrates how everything comes about, how things change from what they were into what they become.
You may be familiar with some of these concepts, the structure and function of your mind, and the universal laws of the universe. Some may be completely new to you.
Understanding them is so important in the process of achieving your dreams, of living the purpose-filled life you were designed to live, of living in a way that is fulfilling and proactive.
If you’re serious about making changes, about winning in life, about living up to your potential and helping everyone around you to do the same, you’ll commit yourself to learning these Laws of Success.
Reflect on them, discuss them, and do all you can to comprehend them, teach them to others, too. The more aware you are about how it all works together, the more you can put these ideas and laws to work for you so that you’ll experience more success and less frustration.
Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com
Attitude is Everything
Bill’s sitting in traffic, his attitude stinks, so he feels angry at the other drivers for being in the way. He wishes they’d disappear, they’re not even human to him anymore, and he doesn’t remember that they’ve got lives, destinations, concerns, joys, and dreams. He just wants them gone. He knows he did this to himself, by leaving too late to account for traffic. He hates being late, but he’s finding himself late more and more often. But, right before he left, he grouched at his family, couldn’t find his socks, and then decided he had to take a quick peek at email. So he left no room to spare in his drive time. And now he’s looking at a sea of brake lights, waiting through several turns of the traffic light. Fuming. He can feel his pulse on his forehead, a ticking bomb. Finally, he sees the hold-up, an accident. He feels awful because of his selfish impatience, for a moment.
OR
Tracy’s sitting in the same traffic jam, even though she left early. But she’s listening to an audio book, reading when she’s at a standstill, or taking the time to breathe deeply and meditate. She’s counting her blessings, taking time to be grateful for all that she is, has, and hopes for. She wonders about the other drivers around her, and notices some really grouchy guy in the car to the right. Looks like he might explode, is that his pulse beating on his forehead? She says a prayer for him and all the other drivers, too. She knows that when she finally gets where she’s got to go, she’ll be able to cope with any effects of being late from the traffic.
There is a world of difference between these two commutes. And it’s all because of attitude. No big surprise, your attitude affects your success in every area of your life, from your relationships to your finances, from your physical health to your appearance, from how long you’ll live to how effective you’ll be in your business.
An attitude is made of our thoughts, feeling, and ultimately, our actions. It’s formed in that order too. Our thoughts create our feelings which direct our actions.
Notice that thoughts come first. It might seem strange, because it certainly seems like our feelings hijack our thoughts and propel us into actions, not the other way around. But you’ll see, as we look at how your mind works, that your thoughts are the real powerhouse, the boss, the launch pad that sets everything else in motion. Each thought is powerful, for your good or your harm.
Feelings can be overwhelming, seemingly uncontrollable, driving you toward inevitable actions. It’s critical to learn how to control your feelings and actions before anything is set in motion. Either way, for good or for bad results, our thinking and feeling determine how things work out in our lives. Our results are just that, the effects of what’s going on inside us.
Before you can really get going on the direction of change, you’ve got to do an attitude check first. You can read until your eyeballs fall out and your fingers get calloused from turning pages, but without the right attitude in place, you’re wasting your time. With a poor attitude, there’s no information on Earth that can help you change your life. Take a look at your attitude about yourself, your life, the people in your life, your finances, your health, and your place in the universe. How does it look? There are lots of things in life you really don’t have much of a choice about, but your attitude is not one of them. Your attitude is completely up to you. We can tell you right away, that a positive, grateful attitude is the best way to go. Gratitude, for what you’ve already got, for where you live, who you know, all that you are, and all that you’re not, is the place to start. How can you ever expect to receive more in life, to be more in life, without appreciating how far you’ve already come?
Your attitude is a choice. Success is all about making great choices, and this is the first one you need to tackle. It might take practice. It might take reminding yourself. It might even take a “fake it ’til you make it” stance, but you’ve got to do it.
Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com
How to Inventory Your Personal Assets for 2007
Have you ever noticed how, at this time of year, there are lists and lists circulating? You can find a list of the 20 best films of 2006, the 10 worst dressed people, the 50 most interesting books. In addition to spending some of your spare time reading through these lists, how about taking some personal time to create your own list - of your 10 most important assets? It may seem unusual for you, a member of the Sandwich Generation, to concentrate on yourself instead of on the needs of the family around you, but allow yourself to focus on and embrace your own development at this pivotal time.
Creating your asset inventory will give you a leg up on beginning 2007 from a position of power, but how do you begin? To help you, here’s a short list to help you focus on your assets - not the financial ones but the personal strengths you own. Use this process to discover some of your hidden passions. Reflect on your answers or discuss them with a trusted friend as you create an expanded sense of yourself.
1. Writing your thoughts in a journal will help you clarify your thoughts and feelings as you look at all aspects of your life. As you begin to make an inventory of your assets, include what you have done and the value you have created in the past - as student, family member, career associate, community volunteer, friend.
2. Identify your strengths. What are some of your natural talents? What comes so easily you often don’t notice it? How about the acquired skills you have used successfully? Think about what you consider to be your greatest personal strengths. These could encompass, among others, attributes as diverse as a love of learning, a sense of humor, loyalty, an appreciation of beauty, the ability to love and be loved.
3. Consider how others view you and your contributions. Who uses you as a role model and why? What in your life experience has led you to wisdom? Honor this insight and find ways to share what you already know well - mentor students learning to read, become a Big Sister, coach a basketball team at the youth center.
4. Engage in an active process of getting to know your true self and what you want to do. What nurtures your creative thinking? What stimulates your curiosity? What do you really value and care about? What are your dreams and passions? What do you imagine is your life purpose now?
5. How would you like to share your “assets” with others? Your expertise can be directed to giving back to those in need, to the next generation, to the community, country, world. Begin to practice small acts of kindness - let the harried mother go ahead of you in the grocery line, give up the parking space to the elderly gentleman, smile at the sales clerk who looks like she’s having a bad day.
6. Just as you would calculate liabilities as well as assets when determining your financial net worth, you can look at the areas which you would like to enhance in your personal life. This provides a focus for your actions toward self-improvement in 2007.
After you identify your strengths and the direction you want to take, develop and follow a concrete plan of action. As the writer George Eliot said, “It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” Establish short-term objectives that will move you, step by step, toward the long-term goals you have set for yourself. Discover and create your personal vision for 2007 using your asset inventory.
(c)Her Mentor Center, 2006
Rosemary Lichtman, Ph.D. and Phyllis Goldberg, Ph.D. are founders of http://www.HerMentorCenter.com, a website for midlife women and http://www.NourishingRelationships.Blogspot.com, a Blog for the Sandwich Generation. They are authors of a forthcoming book about Baby Boomers’ family relationships.
How to Create a Winning Self Image in 4 Simple Steps
How do you go about building a healthy, positive self-image? One way is to model the beliefs, habits and behaviors of winners. Winners have a healthy form of tunnel vision. They make a habit of focusing on their infinite potential. Their present circumstances serve to motivate, or else are ignored.
Your beliefs about your potential point directly toward your self-image. Your self-image is simply your picture of yourself, of your abilities, of your worthiness to succeed, of your limits. Some people seem to come by a healthy self-image naturally; most of us need to work on improving how we see ourselves.
The great thing is that there’s nothing in the world that can keep you from improving your self-image. You can’t do much about what you have believed about yourself in the past or done in the past, but you have complete control over what you’ll believe in and participate in now.
What does it take to improve your self-image? The first step is deciding to consciously work on it, deciding to adopt a winners image.
Here are 4 important steps to follow to improve your self-image:
Watch what you say to yourself.
It’s amazing how we’ll allow ourselves to say things to ourselves that we would never tolerate coming from someone else. If the mean words that come out of your own mind about yourself came out of the mouth of a stranger, you might be hurt, but you’d certainly think, “This guy’s nuts, talking to me like that.” If the same mean words were addressed to your child or your best friend, you’d run to their defense with a big “How dare you?” on your tongue. We’ll talk soon about how your mind works, but let’s just say for now that it’s not discriminating in what it believes, if it comes from your own thoughts.
Watch who you hang out with.
Negativity is contagious, and gossip is a hard habit to shake. Obviously, if you spend time with people who are critical, who tear others down, you’ll catch it too - in two ways. You’re more likely to think and talk that way about others and yourself, and, those same people probably talk about you when you’re not around, too. Surround yourself with positive people, people who are seeking to grow and improve. We really do become like the people we surround ourselves with, so be particular.
Watch for the positive.
Because negative thinking about ourselves and everything around us is so habit-forming, it can really sneak up on us. Make a point of searching for what is positive, lovely, perfect, wonderful, timely, gracious, and good. Do this about the people you interact with and about yourself. It forms a new habit building, rather than destroying.
Watch your tongue.
Be very careful about what you say. If you catch yourself berating yourself, or another person, stop. Take a moment, turn around in your tracks, and go the other way. Guard your heart and your lips from speaking evil. People have enough catch-up work to do on their self-image from all they heard about themselves long ago without you adding to it and that goes for yourself, too.
As with everything you do to grow and improve, it takes action and patience to see results. This effort is completely worth it though, because your success in life can never exceed your self-image.
If you want more in your life it’s time to forget the past and start NOW to shape a new, winning self-image.
Andrew Cocks and Terry Zambri are Certified Bob Proctor Life Success Consultants and Network Marketing Coaches. Their new FREE book, The Life Success Factor, combined with their exclusive 3 step marketing system is creating massive success for their team. http://www.TheNetworkMarketingCoach.com